Bonding with Mom by Sara Sanderson
Bonding with Mom by Sara Sanderson
I was a bad kid after high school. My senior year I met Doug, who, I thought, was the center of the universe. I started missing curfew, breaking promises, skipping classes and embarking on a lifestyle both deviant and exciting. You see, I was always resentful of my childhood. Raised as the middle child by an over-worked, under-paid, stressed out single mother, I felt like I never got to “have fun”. My siblings and I spent most of our pre-teen years in daycare while my mother worked 12-hour days.
After I met Doug, I got pretty out of control. A series of recent disappointments in my life led me to develop a toxic “I don’t care” attitude. Finally, my mom had had enough. I left home. My mom said she didn’t want to see me until I shaped up. I didn’t care. I had Doug and we had a fun life together. Slowly, I started to realize what I gave up. My mom would call me and say “I don’t want you to come home as long as you are with him.” I was upset that she would even put me in a position like that and it pushed us further apart. About a year later, Doug got hauled off to jail. I knew my mom wouldn’t want me back if my homecoming wasn’t sincere. I had to find a way to prove myself. I remember walking into the Armed Forces recruiter and saying “sign me up, I’m ready to go ASAP”. I signed my name by the dotted line and in 3 months I would ship out. I called my mom and told her I signed up for the military. She agreed to let me come home until I left.
For the next three months, I stayed with mom. I was just waiting to leave, so I had nothing to do all day. I would be home alone until mom came home from work around 5:00 PM. This started to become my favorite time of the day. We would sit together every night and watch court-TV until she went to bed. It was during those times that we had many conversations about life and we discovered how similar we were. We realized that we both had the same views on politics, spirituality, love and almost every other major idea. We realized that, inside, we were like the same person. We even had the same exact birthmark in the same exact spot. I started to realize that what I was missing all that time wasn’t just a mom, but a best friend. Needless to say, by the time I shipped out, it was the hardest thing I ever did. I felt like I had to give up my favorite person in the world.
Now, nearly 3 years later, my mom says she is more proud of me than she has ever been of anyone in her entire life. She never complains that I am away. She said one time that she feels like she “lost me to the world too soon,” and I know it eats her up that I am away, but she never tells me so because she doesn’t want me to feel bad. She asks me when I am coming home and now, all I can tell her is “when I’m done making you proud.”
- Sara Sanderson
I’m very touched by your story and your good heart. May good things always happen for you and your mom.
Good job Wifey.
Your story is truly a tear jerker may love and good things be bestowed upon you and your mother.
Awwww…. an amazing and uplifting story. My heart goes out to you and your mom.
Love you GF, thanks for voting Doll! I want to see you today…sno cones?
This is an amazing article! I hope this helps! And this is also very touching!-tyler jenkins
I voted for you!
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Absolutely love you bbgirl!!!!!!!!!!!! Never stop being proud of you!!!!!!!!!!
How sweet!
This is a great story!!
What a wonderful story. I know your mom is extremely proud of you.
Love the story it really puts things in prospective!
Wow, what a great story! Very touching!
I hope my kid can say the same of me some day.
Great story!
Great story! I love both you and your mom! Lord bless cousin! You are a blessing and so is our family.
So proud of you for getting through it and getting your life back together! I rember, it was pretty tough! You guys deserve a trip to NYC- tell Michael to let you go. <3 u best friend!
Wonderful story. Your mom is right to be proud of you
Very Sweet.. Love it.. Can’t wait to read what happens to both of you over the next 20 years.
Your Mom and I spent a lot of time together and shared a lot of personal stories, this being one of them. I am very touched by your message, and believe that by sharing your story, you will be helping many others facing the same obstacles. Good luck to you and your Mom!!!
You have come a long way honey. So proud of you also, as I am sure your mom is. You definitely deserve this honor and I look forward to hearing more great moments that come from it. Love you!!
Sara, I loved reading your story. I remember that time and how much we worried about you and prayed for you! I hope you both win the trip. I’m so happy to hear that you two are so close now. We are all so proud of you!!!!
I am very proud of you Sara and we have alot to owe to our mom. Love you both!
Hope you win.
I hope you win Sara and Anne! I have known you both for years and you both deserve a trip and spend some quality time together.
That is so sweet!
I just love all of you guys so much because you know first-hand where I have been and where I am now and I honestly believe that it was because of my mother that I was able to overcome. She went through so much for me but she never stopped loving me and that love carried me through. I love you Mom!
Sara, What a beautiful story! You and your mom are both pretty special. I hope you both get to go to NYC together and have that friendship time together! We love you, dear niece, and we’re proud of you, too!
Nick Munn VOTES FOR SARA!!!
Love you mom and sara. win!
YOU MAKE ME VERY PROUD AND HAPPY AND ARE THE BEST DAUGHTER EVER!!!
LOVE, MOM
WONDERFUL STORY – I KNOW THAT YOUR MOM IS WONDERFUL AND I AM SURE YOU ARE JUST LIKE HER. JOHN
Sara, I am so proud of you. When we first met it was at a trying time in both of are lifes. In just 3yrs+ you’ve proved what true meaning is for change..you have truely turn your life around to be a wonderful daughter to your mom. Someone she can be so proud of cause you I am:) I hope you guys get to go:)love Kristy
Sara, I am so proud of you. When we first met it was at a trying time in both of are lifes. In just 3yrs+ you’ve proved what true meaning is for change..you have truely turn your life around to be a wonderful daughter to your mom. Someone she can be so proud of cause you I am:) I hope you guys get to go:)love Kristy
Sara Baby, I’m speechless your story has me in tears and I love it. Your mom is another hero of mine now and I’d love to meet her. Thanks for sharing this with us. I love you Babe and you have my vote. Love CGG
You got my vote! Hope you get stationed somewhere you can be with your mother more frequently!
Sara you have my vote. Love Mama Wadiyah (Takiya’s Mother)
I’m glad that you now have a stronger relationship with your mom Sara. She’s lucky to have a daughter like you.
You have a very inspiring story, Sara! After knowing you for almost 11 years, I am also extremely proud of all your accomplishments and what a remarkable person you have become. Keep up the great work!
-Jamie
You have my vote.
That was a very touching story, I have not know you very Long. Im so glad that you have changed your life and changed things with your mother, in a way that she is proud of you. There is nothing like a mothers love. Good luck to you guys I hope you win. May 3, 2011
that’s a very nice story, i’m glad my name wasn’t mentioned in any of it lol, although we both were on a collision course with disaster, i’m sooo happy you came out of it and made a decision to make a better life for yourself, i know it doesn’t matter what i think, but i’m sooo extremely proud of you Sara!!
Sara,
You did a beautiful job on this. I know what you mean about a mother being a best friend. I look up to you girly. You have grown into an amazing woman and I myself am proud, and so is my mom. We both miss you and can’t wait to see your beautiful face again!! All our love to you, your mom, and your husband. Love ya!
~Katy
Sara,
You did a beautiful job on this. I know what you mean about a mother being a best friend. I look up to you girly. You have grown into an amazing woman and I myself am proud, and so is my mom. We both miss you and can’t wait to see your beautiful face again!! All our love to you, your mom, and your husband. Love ya!
~Katy
Thank you to all of my loyal friends and family who give me the strength to succeed in this life. Many who have known me through the rough times probably never expected me to be where I am today and I am just so thankful for the unconditional love, understanding, constant support and of course, the Magnificent Grace of God. Saying that I am blessed is a gross understatement, I love you all.
Aww…what a great story Sara!!!! I hope you win. You soo deserve it
Great story Sara!!! I hope everything works out for you.
Sara, this story is amazing. Thank you for sharing your story.
This is a tear jerker story. I can relate a lot to it as I myself went thru the resent the childhood and then graduate high school, meet an idiot and go wild phase. Which estranged me from mom and later patched up and now, thru other stupid circumstances are estranged again. I sooo hope you win, you do deserve it and this is something I think every young girl can relate to.
Sarah this is so amazing!! I really was tearful near the end! It was an extremely touching story. You have my vote =)
Great story! Very touching.
I’ve always wondered why you suddenly joined the military!
Sara, what a wonderful story. the bond between a mother and daughter is one of the greatest gifts the good Lord gives us. I am so happy to see that you and your Mom are enjoying yours to the fullest. I hope and pray that you both get to enjoy New York together. Hugs honey
Sara,
i’m glad you shaped up to be the great person you are… i know your not a mom yet, but HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to you and your mom.
Sara, that is a wonderful story about growing up and learning about yourself. So glad it has a happy ending. Or shall I say a happy new beginning?!
Sara Your story was absolutely heart warming and beautiful. I remember all of this going down, and just how impressed and proud I was of you when you came above it all. And hearing it from your side, with your very talented words, that was just the best. Thank you for sharing. I’m going to call my Momma this morning now, and remind her what she means to me. Thanks again! Hope you WIN! And you ladies get to have an amazing trip!!!
Good luck girl!
My Sweet Sara… From someone who knows you as their own, and has the most respect for your mother, I can’t think of a more deserving Mother – Daughter that not only have so much unconditional love for each other, through all the trials and hard knocks in your life, but how you Sara bounced back and know you are there for your Mother! That is beautiful..I know how proud she is of you and for sure you never have to doubt her love.. She worked all those hours and raised three children because she loved you! (by the way I am so proud of you also!) You for sure have my vote…I’d love to see you both make that fabulous trip together.. What a great daughter you are!
This was story was written beautifully Sara. I know everyone is proud of the obsticals you’ve overcome and the women you’ve became.
Very touching Sara! I think when we are young it may be hard to see but once we have lived a while in this cruel world on our own we realize no one will ever love you like Mamma does
wonderful story…always remeber Moms only want the best for their children. Sometime we all lose our way along the path of life, but no matter what MOM is always right there whispering in your ear softly “I LOVE U ALWAYS”
Sara- what a beautiful story. You are so brave and amazing to come through everything that you have.
I love it! Children will never fully understand or maybe even appreciate their parents until they experience life on their own and realize life isn’t always so easy. I am proud of you for joining the military and protecting all of our liberties which we take for granted. Keep up the great work.
An inspiring and encouraging story for everyone. Thanks for sharing. And God bless you..!
THANKS TO ALL OF YOU WHO VOTED FOR US!!! I LOVE ALL MY KIDS!!!! THEY MAKE LIFE WORTH LIVING!!!!!!!
ANNE (MOM)
A very touching story. I hopy you guys can be together soon. It’s a great thing you are doing by serving our country! Be safe.
A very touching story. I hope you guys can be together soon. It’s a great thing you are doing by serving our country! Be safe. I had to correct my typo, guess I should proof read better
I am sooooo touched by your story. Funny how it’s only aft the fact that we discover the most important things in life–family <3
GREAT STORY – KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK – TELL CHRIS I SAID HEY – CAN’T WAIT TO SEE YOU THIS SUMMER – I HAVE A BOAT LINED UP FOR LAKE HURON – SEE YA IN JULY – LOVE TED
Great Story! Very inspirational and uplifting. Thank you for all you are doing for our country
What a heart warming story! Thanks for sharing your inspirational thoughts about the special bond between you and your Mom. God bless!!
What a great story, very inspirational.
YOU BOTH DESERVE A WEEKEND TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!
You both are beautiful women! Thanks for sharing this wonderful true-to-life story. =)
Touching, real life, something that happens more often than you can imagine. I spent 25 years dealing with confused youg adults. Many never come back from the dark side, but Sara did. Ann, you deserve the credit, Sara you deserve our thanks for serving.
Sara, you are very blessed to have such a wonderful & loving mom! I wish my mom was still around to share those special moments with.
Lynette Stanley
Wow, I am in tears after reading a lot of what people have said. I started to break down especially after your comment: Red and yours Katy. I know all you guys saw me at my worst and to be able to say you are proud of me and look up to me now, lets me feel so fulfilled. It makes me feel like if I died today, I would be okay with that because I no longer live in the shadows and cause people to hurt. I love every single one of you. This would not be possible without my mom. If she weren’t there to be the voice of reason and the support behind me whenever I fell, I would have just kept on the way I was going.
SARA – YOUR SISTER MAL HAS BEEN A HUGE ROCK FOR OUR FAMILY. SHE DESERVES MUCH THANKS AS WELL. EVAN IS ALSO GREAT SUPPORT!!!!!! LOVE YOU ALL. MOM
WOW! What a heartwarming story. I was deeply touched. Single moms are the best!
Bev Kelly
I’m so proud of you Sara for all of your accomplishments in the Air
force – the many awards you have received and now in Officer’s Candidate School — and you only weighing 98 pounds soakin’ wet!! Take care and good luck to you and your Mom.
Much love, Aunt Mary Jo
This is a LOVELY story Sara. Your Mum is very lucky to have you as her daughter. We VERY much appreciate your service to our country!
Sara, I’ve heard so much about you. My older son went through some bad times, too, and your Mom was there to give me strength. You taught her how to be strong in so many ways, and she’s passing on that gift to others who need her. Cherish the bond you have with her and stay safe as you serve our country.
Another vote for YOU!
A vote for you
I would like to vote again, lol
Win – win – win !!!!!!!!!!
Now your both stronger and have a closer relationship then most Mothers and Daughters.
I would give you my bed of nails if you were still in MI
good one
Sara, I know for a fact everyone is so proud of everything you’ve accomplished. You’ve overcome so much. Miss you
My sweet sara, you are amazing.Your mom your sister and evan. Stop making me cry already andjust win!!!!! love you and the family
Very inspiring!
Another vote from me!! I hope you win
Voting again…
Vote from michael!
Totally passing you another vote! Hope you and your mom win. Y’all deserve it. ~Jazzie~
AWWWW. HOW DELIGHTFUL SAREE….
Here are 1000 votes for you!
Here’s hoping you and your mom win this trip. Love and miss you! Good Luck!
I will try to submit a third vote…here’s hoping!
Sometimes the most contentious relationship between mother and daughter can turn out to be the strongest bond as the years pass. We are trying to be our own person and find our own way. We don’t want to listen to our mother and have her show us the way. But then after many knocks and bumps, we find out mother was right all along and just trying to save us some heartache.
Hey! Here’s a second vote for you. You both deserve to win this prize. Best Regards, Bev Kelly
Another vote for you! Look out New York…Anne and Sara are on their way!
Nice!
Very touching!
So very inspiring!!!!!!!!
Love you guys!!!!!!!!!!!
You’re like a daughter to me! Love you both.
Better days are coming. Good Luck.
Very Touching!
Love you both. Hope you win.
Great story
I remember those times. Glad to see it all worked out. Good luck.
Thanks for serving our country!!!!!!!!!!!!! You deserve a fun trip outside of work!!!!
My second vote!
Love you guys!!!
My second vote!!!
ANNE WAS A BIG PART OF MY LIFE, SHE IS MY THIRD DAUGHTER. LOVE HER, AND HER FAMILY….
YOUR THE GREATEST. YOU SURVIVED ALL THE HARDSHIPS AND CAME OUT SMILING.
Heres a vote from me! (mom made me do it…;-)
4 votes from sunny Naples Florida
I remember that time I ran into your mom and you at the China King Buffet. What a good few laughs we shared. Good luck; you got my vote!
You two remind me of a couple of coconuts
And look how far you have come along. You were able to open the iguana rescue and do so much more than you would have if you hadn’t gone thru that. God works in mysterious ways
When you come home next you need to call me and we need to get together
This story reminds me of my youngest son. He has to learn everything the hard way. It’s not falling down but it’s the getting up that counts.
Like I always say during hard times “at least i’m not on fire”!
Please share this with others… great revelation…. Love you Saree
Voting and checking in to see how it’s going. NYC for you and your Mom. =)
Vote!
Another vote!
Another vote for the Sapersteins!
Sara, you make me and your country proud.
Good Luck Sara!!! Loved the story by the way;)
You have my vote!
I love you Sara
. Let’s go Baby…..#Team U N I T Y representing for my girl Sara! <3 CGG
Another vote from Her Royal Highness.
You mom has told me how hard it is being away from her daughter all the time but she would rather you be away doing what you love than to be back here in Michigan doing something else. I hope you win so you can be together for a trip to New York.
I met you when I brought my iguanas to your iguana rescue
Unconditional BFFs – You got this
You go girl
We knew you would come around. Every kid goes through a rough patch.
Cream rises to the top. 2 votes…one from me and one from your uncle Sam
Aint no stopping the Frezzas. We are capable of anything if we set our minds to it. Proud that you are my blood.
What a beautiful story, Sarah. You would make any mother proud!
Glad to see that you are doing well. I miss sitting around singing Matchbox 20 and recording ourselves haha
I love your sister she told me to vote, so here’s for you Mal
You have a great family. Ive known the Frezzas for years. Petie would be proud.
Great mother’s day gift for your ma. What is this bond number 9 you’re always talking about? Is this something to do with that?
I fought lions for your heart to turn you from a maiden into a maid! Love you sassy butt wife.
gettin my vote in b4 it ends
THANKS FOR SERVING OUR COUNTRY!!!!!!!!!
THANKS FOR YOUR STORY AND FOR YOUR SERVICE TO THE USA!!!
I VOTE FOR YOUR STORY – IT REMINDS ME OF ME WHEN I WAS A TEEN. THANKS ALOT FOR SHARING.
A SINCERE THANKS FOR YOUR SERVICE TO AMERICA!!!!!!!!!!!
Another vote from me
MY VOTE IS FOR THIS STORY. WISH YOU ALL THE BEST! WILL
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY – HOPE YOU WIN!!!!!!!
SO MUCH LOVE IN THAT STORY!!!!
YOU GUYS ROCK – A GREAT STORY!!!!! RACH
HAVE FUN IN NEW YORK – YOU BOTH DESERVE THIS BONDING TRIP. LB
SANDY TOLD ME ABOUT THIS CONTEST – HOPE YOU GUYS WIN – YOU DESERVE IT!
ONE MORE VOTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
YOUR HEART FELT STORY REALLY MADE MY MOTHER’S DAY. THANKS FOR SHARING,
I AM SO GLAD THAT EVERYTHING WORKED OUT FOR YOUR FAMILY. BEST OF LUCK.
Raaaaaarr!
Y0U ARE BOTH AN INSPIRATION TO ALL FAMILIES. THANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT.
YOU CAN NEVER BE TOO CLOSE TO YOUR MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!
dad got a piece of salty cake for dessert tonite! miss u sis
This one’s for Amy
Just in case…this really is the best story…send these fine ladies to NYC!!!
Hope you two win…great story
I hope you have enough to win!!
Thanks to everyone who voted! I really hope we pulled this off!
Thanks Miss Patty for getting Mr. Lovett to vote and to you too Aunt Michelle. I think this contest really proved to me how blessed I am with so many good friends and family.
I hope its midnight central standard time so this vote counts
your grandma wanted me to vote for her while she’s recovering from her surgery love Bev
Here is another vote for you and I thank you for all you do for our country. You are a strong lady and don’t let anyone tell you any different!