Bonding with my mom has so many special moments for me that it’s hard to pick just one time. Mama Wadiyah, the name everyone calls her, is loved by many people near and far. Mama has a way of making everyone feel special. She’s so warm and kind hearted and takes nothing too serious. It really takes a lot to shift Mama’s spirit. Her faith is strong and her motto is “speak all positive things to your life and they will be yours”. I appreciate her way of seeing things but didn’t always feel this way.
I became a parent in my teens and Mama was there every step of the way. When she found out I thought she’d disown me and banish me from the family. Instead she sat me down and reminded me of the gift that was in my womb. She told me that the first time was a mistake and for me to strive to not get pregnant again till I was older and better established in life. People would tell her to send me to a home for young moms; others even told her to have me get rid of it. Discussions were held about how we’d care for my child when his father and I were still in High School. At the same time my Stepfather was away working and Mama was pregnant herself with my third sibling. With all this pressure from naysayers I swore Mama would conform to their beliefs and opinions. With all that was going on Mama stayed strong and focused. She came to every prenatal appointment with me. She and I would read books on motherhood and she even found a support group for me and was a regular volunteer of it.
When labor hit Mama was right there by my side saying prayers and reminding me that I was doing a great job. That shield of positivity and belief in the unseen has made my Mama such a phenomenal women. In the mist of that storm she respected people who we know and love yet she knew what was happening in our life was a blessing. She used their dots to show them better than she could have ever told them.
I understand now the true gift she is. Her character has taught me life is a journey and that if you go rush through it you won’t gain all the wonderful lessons it has for you. I’m so blessed to have her as a mom. Wadiyah Abdur-Rahim is my hero for life.
- Takiya Aiken